Our counselling program for academic counselling includes:
- Helping individuals understand themselves and develop an appreciation for strengths and weaknesses.
- Developing an understanding of personal values and interests.
- Supporting students during difficult times that may interfere with academic performance.
- Helping parents and teachers understand difficulties the student may experience that may influence the quality of their work.
- Helping students prepare and stay organized for coursework (i.e. tests and assignments).
- Deciding on a program of study.
- Learning how to study, prepare for class, take tests, and write assignments.
- Developing discipline to meet goals.
For more information regarding our academic counselling program you may contact us at 416-999-3437 or info@csyorkregion. Our Vaughan and Maple counselling facilitates are here to help!
Potential Contributing Factors - Affairs
The couple’s relationship:
- Frequent arguments or unresolved issues
- Lack of emotional closeness
- Little time devoted to fun activities that both partners enjoy
- Little physical intimacy
- Unmet expectations
- Difficulty balancing goals of the relationship with personal goals
Influences outside of the relationship:
- High work or family demands/responsibilities
- Too many extracurricular activities (excluding partner)
- Stress from various sources (e.g. illness, financial, extended family)
- Too much time spent with individuals who don’t support the relationship
- Too little time spent with individuals who support the relationship
- Exposure to situations which provide for opportunity for outside emotional or sexual involvement.
Aspects of the participating partner:
- Self-doubt and vulnerability
- High desire for individuals outside of the relationship
- Participating in behaviours that contribute to difficulty in maintaining a healthy relationship.
- Personal beliefs about affairs (emphasizing the positives and minimizing the negatives)
- Difficulties maintaining commitment
Aspects of the injured partner
- Self-doubt interfering with emotional and physical intimacy
- Participating in behaviours that contribute maintaining difficulty in the relationship
- Difficulties in coping with relationship disappointments.
Baucom, D. H., Snyder, D. K., Gordon, K. C., & Snyder, D. K. (2009). Helping couples get past the affair: A clinician's guide. New York: Guilford Press.
How to Stay Grounded During this Time
Here are some ways to help you manage with the stress of finding out about your partner’s affair:
- Write to people you are angry with; just make sure you don’t send the letters.
- Talk to friends – We recommend that you speak with friends that you trust. If you do choose to repair your relationship and they do become aware of the affair, ask yourself if they will make your choice to stay with your partner difficult. If they would, you may want to reconsider telling them.
- Talk to your therapist.
- Take a long walk.
- Hit a punching bag or go for a run.
- Join a new group physical activity class (e.g. yoga).
- Scream or cry in the car.
- Cry in places where you feel comfortable (e.g. shower or bedroom).
- Find humorous activities – watch a comedy television show or attend a stand-up comedy performance
- Write – journal your feelings.
- Relaxation exercises – a quick Internet video search could help you find many relaxation exercises (e.g. progressive muscle relaxation, autogenic training, deep breathing, guided imagery).
- Problem solving activities – video games or puzzles.
- Listening to music.
- Rest – counting your breaths or taking deep sighs.
- Taking a shower or an Epson salt bath.
- Taking a hike – nature will help you stay grounded.
- Television – get lost in a new television series.
- Go for a massage.
- Try to stay mindful at this time – read texts on mindfulness.
If you have any questions, please feel free to call or email us.