Breakups and divorces are tough and can affect a lot of people, not just the couple, but also their families and friends. Like any other major change, it has a beginning and an end, but it’s usually a complex and emotional process. When someone goes through a breakup, whether they’re the one ending the relationship or the one being left, it’s normal to feel sad, angry, confused, or even grieve. These emotions can feel overwhelming and might get in the way of day-to-day life—whether that’s at work, school, or just getting through the regular routine. Talking to a me about your concerns can really help during these times. As a psychologist, the goal for counselling is to help improve self-esteem and reduce the risk of depression or post-traumatic stress.Therapy focused on divorce and breakups is designed to help people adjust and find balance after the end of a relationship. Research shows that individuals who are divorced or separated are more likely to isolate themselves socially compared to those in intact families (Weinraub & Wolf, 1983). Additionally, people who have recently separated may work more hours and spend less time building or maintaining their social support systems, such as forming new friendships or strengthening family bonds.
Children of divorced parents are also significantly affected by this transition. Therapy can help parents understand the best ways to support their kids during this challenging time. According to Sholevar's Textbook of Family and Couples Therapy: Clinical Applications, "insecurely attached children of divorce or separation tend to have more difficulty with peers, become more dependent on their teachers, and show more anxious or avoidant behaviors" (Sholevar, 2013).
As a psychologist, my job is to help you get through this with as much ease as possible.
Therapy can help:
- Assist with the initial stress following a separation/divorce.
- Create no norms (traditions, expectations, and rules) for yourself and family members involved (i.e. children, parents).
- Assist in improving parenting skills to help children cope with the separation (for those with children).
- Reduce the rate of damaging emotional disorders.
- Explore the existence of a co-parenting relationship (if children are involved).
- Improve self-esteem and self-confidence.
