Signs You May Be Developing Interest in Someone Outside of Your Relationship 

1. You meet this person in a place or situation where most people date or have sexual contact. Many people choose to rationalize this by convincing themselves and others that it's not serious, but significant investments are made during these times: emotional, financial, and physical.
2. There is a 'good' feeling that comes when they interact with the person.
3. There is a discussion of sexual topics that happens via text or in person. This may include discussions about sexual fantasies. 
4. You may be daydream about this person.
5. You hide your interactions with this person from your spouse or partner. 
6. You feel shame and guilt about your behaviour. These feelings usually come about when you are hiding something from your partner. This could include conversations, feelings, and contact. 
7. You spend more time talking with this person than your spouse
8. You have thoughts about this person throughout the day and may engage in masturbation thinking about this person. 

Peluso, P. R. (Ed.). (2007). Infidelity: A practitioner’s guide to working with couples in crisis. Routledge.

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