Body Image, Self-Talk, and Self-Esteem
How you speak to yourself about your body plays a powerful role in your mental health, self-esteem, and overall wellbeing. Negative or critical self-talk can gradually erode confidence, increase anxiety, and shape how you relate to yourself and others. For individuals and families in Vaughan and York Region, these concerns are common and highly treatable.
This process can be explored independently, but many people find it helpful to work with a psychologist through psychotherapy. Improving body image is not simply about avoiding negative self-talk; it often involves unlearning critical patterns and relearning more compassionate ways of relating to yourself. For many individuals, this takes time and consistent practice.
Why body-related self-talk matters
Taking a step back to notice what you say about your body—and how you say it—is an important part of this work. Comments about weight, dieting, or appearance can influence how others perceive you and, more importantly, how you perceive yourself.
This is particularly important for parents and caregivers. Children often absorb and internalize messages they hear about bodies, food, and self-worth. Over time, these messages can influence their beliefs, emotional wellbeing, and relationship with their own bodies.
One helpful shift is moving away from labeling foods as “good” or “bad.” Using more neutral language—such as “anytime foods” or “occasional foods”—can reduce shame and promote a healthier, more balanced approach to eating.
The impact of comparison on body image
Comparing yourself to others can significantly affect confidence, mood, and stress levels. When comparison becomes habitual, it often reinforces dissatisfaction and self-criticism. Children may also notice this behaviour and learn to measure their own worth against others.
Reducing comparison is not about ignoring reality—it is about letting go of a habit that offers little benefit and often increases emotional distress. Learning to disengage from comparison can help reduce daily stress and support healthier self-esteem for both adults and children.
Empowerment, confidence, and self-worth
Finding ways to empower yourself and your children plays an important role in maintaining healthy self-esteem. This may involve developing interests, hobbies, or extracurricular activities that build a sense of competence, enjoyment, and identity beyond appearance.
In my work as a psychologist, I have seen how engaging in meaningful activities—at any age—can strengthen confidence, improve mood, and support a more balanced sense of self. These strategies are often integrated into therapy for anxiety, low self-esteem, and perfectionism.
