Taking a step back and reflecting on what you say and how you say it is particularly important. Making comments about weight and diet is likely to influence how others see you and understand you. This is particularly important for those who look up to you. They may internalize these comments, which could influence their future behaviour and thinking. This may begin with avoiding referring to certain foods and 'good' or 'bad.' Using terminology that is more neutral may be more appropriate, such as "occasional food" or "anytime food."
Comparing yourself to others may also be a problem. As you continue to compare yourself to others, your children may take notice. Controlling this behaviour may be important and may also help with reducing negative feelings, which could take a load off your day-to-day stress. There is no need to do this, and working on letting go of this behaviour could bring great changes for you and those around you.
Finding ways to empower yourself and your children is important for maintaining self-esteem. This could mean enrolling yourself and your children in extracurriculars and picking up hobbies. My work as a psychologist has helped many people discover the benefits of an engaging in an extra curricular as an adult
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- Refrain from making comments about weight loss.
- Don't say anything if she's gained weight.
- If you think her body looks great, don't say that. You could instead say, "you look so healthy," or "you're looking strong."
- When you compliment her, do so that has nothing related to her body.
- Don't comment on other people's bodies.
- Teach her about kindness towards others and herself.
- Don't talk about hating your body in front of her.
